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what do you do when u have a husband whos is crazy on womens clips in internet and stay up everynight.?

i have this issue with my spouse who is crazy in women pics. clips..will go to thousands website.. and colletss womens photos.. which is driving me nuts.. coz even willing to pay money in exchange for pictures.. and even stay up late most of the night.. sometime i woke up at one 1 o'clock still the in computer..excuses could not sleep... and dont even share bed anymore his reason he dont want me to wake up when he come to bed, so he sleep in another room..I'am confuse.. he keep telling me he loves me so much..but he dont even go to bed when i go to bed..

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1. I would pack the computer up when he isn't home and hide it. That is crazy. He sounds like he is addicted.
2. its part of man's nature. they love it when they are being seduce. but for now the very best thing to do is divorce.
3. Well keep in mind this is just pictures... he cannot touch or feel them. I'm not underminding what he is doing b/c you do have a problem with it. But know it has nothing to do with you, or something you are not doing.
4. Confront him about it, be bold. He may feel like you're not doing enough for him physically, so ask him that. My parents ended up getting divorced because my dad would talk to women online and flirt with them, which led to meeting them. If he's not open about it, go to marriage counseling :\ best of luck and love
5. The computer has replaced you. Ask him to stop getting on the computer. If he doesn't .. you will have to go to other lengths .. and you will have to decide yourself what you can handle. For example .. tell him that it is either you .. or the computer .. his choice. But you better get ready for a fight .. and be able to handle it. He has a hot thing going on the computer .. probably akin to an addiction. You don't have to put up with this. It is a choice.
6. Sounds like he is addicted. He needs to get help. Even if he refuses to get help, you get some professional help for yourself. Pray, pray and pray somemore. Either God will fix the problem or he will get you out of the marriage in his time.
7. Sounds like he has an addiction to this stuff. He should get counseling and if he is not open to that, I would make sure he knows how you feel, get counseling yourself and if he does nothing to try and get some help, you need to consider leaving. I wish you luck, I know this must hurt you a great deal and that is sad.
8. Do you two still have sex? Doesn't sound like it. You need to do "something" special, very special for your man. Lingerie(not any cheap crap, Victoria Secret would be best), a little make-up, some role-play!!!!!!!!!! GIIRRRLLL!!!!! If he doesn't change at least a little bit then you need to find something else or leave him. It's not always the womans job to please the man. Also remember, what you don't do, another b**** will. Sorry lol
9. kick him in the balls ...then show him your goodies.
10. Baby, this man has an addiction problem! He needs professional help, and it will be up to you to see he gets it. He will squander all of this time and money, and your love, with these internet sites. This is a form of voyeurism of a tangible nature. I would tell him "it is me or the computer!" See if he can stay off it for an entire weekend. Perhaps his company has a shrink on duty, or his insurance will pay for counseling. Ask Dr. Phil for help. He's not sleeping in bed with you because he doesn't want you to know how much time he is spending on these chat rooms. It is his guilt, and the sad thing is he is living in a real fantasy world, daydreaming life would be better with one of these women. What he doesn't realize is that most of them are professionals and playing him for a chump. He is doing this because of his own feelings of inadequacy, not yours. He is dreaming that life will be simpler, or these women will be more malleable to his wishes, or less problematic than real life can ever be. He want's to simplify his life and redirect his sexual needs to someone who won't ask him to take out the trash, or put pressure on him to perform sexually for someone other than himself. He fantasizes that these woman are his sex slaves. Do not let his weakness enslave you. Be strong, and get him some help. He is a sex addict, so be sure and ask the therapist if he/she treats for sex addictions. If the therapist does not take you seriously, get another therapist. May God bless you and see you through this difficult time.
11. He doesn't sound like he's addicted- HE IS. Get a filter on that computer. He is going through a cycle in which he uses these pictures to medicate depression or sadness. Then when he comes out and realizes what he's doing and gets even more depressed. So the cycle builds on itself. First and Foremost- this is not your fault. I doubt he has told you that yet but he may. Second, you need a filter on that computer. More importantly you need to make it clear to him that you love him very much, but its the pictures or you. This will only get worse if it goes unchecked. How do I know this? I went through this myself. I did stop and have made my computer use about filling my hard drive with goodness. but I stopped too late to save my first marriage. I admire your strength and love throught this. Be clear and open about how this affecting you- and how much you miss him. I'd also recommend purelifeminstries.org. Great stuff there. You and he are also very welcome to email me or IM me through yahoo.
12. You do have a problem, he would rather beat his own meat then have you do it. lol lol lol unless maybe you arent willing.
13. This bothers me a ton as well when my current boyfriend looks at pics of naked women online from time to time. So I know how you feel. My old ones were not as into this kind of crap as this one, so I know its not me its him. You should also understand that its not you, its him. Guys like this have some sort of unquenchable need to look at random women. Sounds like yours has really taken it overboard. Tell him that it bothers you and that if he doesn't majorly cut back you are leaving. Period.
14. He's addicted to porn. Problem is hes putting it ahead of you and denying you even a hubby to sleep with. Now this may not be a problem for some but it would be for me. You could have the internet shut off, that might just piss him off or cause him to go to a internet cafe and not be a home at all. I think he needs help but good luck gettin him to admit to that. You might want to do a deal or no deal with him. leave on the net and he starts treating you better and stops all the trashing or turn it off... Good luck your gonna need it...