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why are people who are called sweet or sensitive considered dumb or innocent?

i hate it. i am called sweet and sensitive all the time and i sometimes feel like it gives people the wrong impression that i am naive, simple, innocent, or dumb. yes, i do wear my heart on my sleeve, but i am actually at least somewhat intelligent. at work or with people who know me casually, they always kind of chuckle when they see me, like im just like this flaky, innocent girl and that it so not true. it makes me feel like they just think im like some quirky but nice character. i am a bit too trusting sometimes, but that is it and there is alot more going on than that.

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1. OMG! I feel the same way! I guess maybe it's best not to be so open with people until you have established a more solid relationship, whether friendship or proffessional. It's hard, I know. However, you will not feel as hurt that way. It is sad, that sweet and sensitive is no longer so respected anymore. Feel free to sometimes show the other side of yourself, that you will not tolerate being taken advantage of, you don't have to be sweet all the time. It's not possible to have everyone like you. It's ok to be trusting, but if someone shows signs of not being trustworthy then they don't deserve to have that from you. This way you can protect yourself from being hurt.
2. I think this is a bit of a sexist, ageist, attitude on the part of people who don't really know you. it probably happens because you are polite, cheerful, and emotive. The fact that people, who know you well, don't act that way, tells me that you are deeper than casual acquaintances make you out to be. Try not to be too sensitive about the comments, but still retain your sensitivity. We have the public 'persona' - the face we show to the world. And then we have the personal life, and the private dreams and aspirations. take care that you have good boundaries and keep what is private, private, when dealing with superficial relationships. You sound like you are getting hurt by giving a little too much away. I always like to have positive, sweet, people around. they make the world a nicer place. But i wouldn't want them to go home feeling hurt because they shared just , "a little too much", with me.
3. It is just the way they appear to other people.
4. Perception is reality. If people are percieving you in that way, it is their reality. You are giving off that vibe for some reason. Whether or not their perception of you matches your own does not matter. Personally, I consider people that take things personally or get their feeling hurt easily, somewhat child-like. That is how children behave. Allowing yourself to continually be hurt by what other people would consider meaningless or ridiculous, is not intelligent. Don't be surprised if people treat you in that manner. I'm actually confused as to why you asked this question. A couple of minutes of refelction on "how the world really works" would have given you all the answers you need. I just want to reiterate that people are going to percieve and treat you like that, if you act like that.
5. You must be yourself. Always bear that in mind. Unfortunately, we live in a world in which you have to sulky,standoffish, rude and surly to be respected. I always try to be in a good mood and be kind to other people, and they also think I´m an idiot. That´s what happens to you if you try to start a conversation with a stranger or be friendly in a big city....they just laugh at you (not everybody, luckily) My advice is: Don´t pay attention to what other people might say about you.Be yourself. You only have to give account of your actions to God, and all those people who call you "naive" are NOT God
6. Because this is a cut-throat society. People sense weakness and exploit it any way they can
7. You are what you are. Use it to your advantage.
8. I think that one of Life's hardest decisions is where to draw the line between being nice and cooperative, and being a sucker. Just gradually get a little edgier with those who seem to disrespect you.
9. what's starnge is that people like us can also be considered "easy" and dont let some fucking guy lead you around, take advantage of you, leave you, take you back, only to take advantage of you again, break up cuz he's depressed and when you finally think he at least thinks ur good enough since he came "running back" only to find out he's been saying shit about you!!!!!!! i was one of those "sweet and innocent" girls and its tuned me into some "slutty" nerve-wrecked bitter ADDICT!!!!!! so b smart and...... don't try to blow the "innocent" thing off too soon 4 u cuz it might just transform you into an unsatified at life........ person????